I said goodbye about 9 years ago. At the time, she didn’t remember me. She was still living alone and driving a car but I didn’t think it was a good idea. Shortly after the family did move her to a facility I’m not sure what kind but my other grandmother lived then until she died.
My aunt Vera and her daughter Kris made most of the decisions, and handled most of her care with help from my aunt Susan. My mother and I didn’t agree with their decisions, but then we weren’t there day to day.
My husband doesn’t think I should go, most of the way is either frozen over or close to it and I hate driving in ice. Not sure you even can. And I’m not sure I should drive that much just because of the sleep depreviation. I also think my students need me, even though I would only be gone three days max.
We are sad though. She had a good full life, except for the last full years, and is probably responsible for us all be disfunctional.